It seems as though part of life is learning lessons the hard way. For me personally, I have learned lessons the hardest way possible. Repeatedly.
My parents never taught me anything valuable. Honestly, I’m surprised they managed to keep me alive. Growing up as I expressed my dreams and ambitions I was always told “Thats too hard” or “You don’t want to do that, it’s a lot of work.” I was never pressed to go to college, pursue any ambitions or do anything for that matter.
My father feared the world and hid in a Budweiser bottle. My mother did her best but was of little help in pointing me towards designing a life. Go to work and get a job with benefits, was all I was told.
Growing up and moving on with life you begin to look to others for helpful advice in reaching goals or ambitions. However, this can be a disastrous method. I learned that the hard way. Over the past several years I have developed a set of rules I live by to help maintain my sanity as well as keep me on course in life. Here are some of my top rules.
5. Don’t take advice from someone who isn’t where you want to be in life.
Want to be a chef? Don’t take advice on how to do it from the grill cook at the pizza shop. Be a real estate millionaire? Don’t take advice from a relative who lives in an apartment. Find people who are doing exactly what you want to do and seek them out. There are loads of people out there who can give all kinds of advice on how to do or achieve something, but never have accomplished anything themselves. Avoid these people like the plague. Success leaves tracks, follow them.
4. Don’t Gossip
Pretty simple. Don’t say something about someone you wouldn’t say to there face. This can be difficult because it’s in our nature to gossip. If people confide in you. Keep it to yourself. You are much more valuable to someone as a confidant then a gossip. My motto, “I don’t know anything, and even if I do know something, I don’t know anything.”
3. I Don’t Take Shit
I’m 38 years old, I don’t take shit from anyone. And by shit I mean don’t guilt me into doing something, try to manipulate me or lie to me. My bullshit meter is pretty spot on these days.
2. I Will Cut You
I have never actually cut someone with a knife or a weapon, but if you are a drain on my existence, a liar, or anyone who distracts me from my goals, or means to be an asshole, I will cut you out of my life immediately. I don’t have time for bullshit.
1. I Am A Sarcastic Asshole
This is who I am. It means one of two things, I’m comfortable enough with you to be that way, or I don’t like you. It’s up to you to figure out which one.
Rules. They provide guidance in life. These rules have helped me stay focused. Do I break my rules? I try not too. However rule 1 nevet gets broken. Thanks for reading and please share!